My father’s name is Antônio Ferreira, and this spring he turned sixty. In our family, age has always been measured less by numbers and more by endurance—by how much someone has carried and how quietly they’ve carried it. My mother passed away suddenly when my sister and I were still in college, leaving behind a silence so deep it seemed to settle into the walls of our house in Belo Horizonte. From that day on, my father lived alone. Not the dramatic kind of loneliness people imagine, filled with despair or bitterness, but a disciplined, restrained solitude. He woke before dawn, made his coffee strong and unsweetened, went to work, came home, cooked simple meals, and tended to his small garden with near-religious devotion. Sundays were reserved for mass, where he sat in the same pew every week, hands folded, eyes lowered. Relatives tried to intervene gently at first, then more insistently as the years passed. “Antônio, you’re still strong and healthy,” they’d say at birthdays or family lunches. “A man shouldn’t live alone forever.” He would smile calmly, the same polite smile he used with everyone, and reply, “When my daughters are settled, then I’ll think about myself.” And he meant it. He attended every parent meeting, helped pay tuition, fixed leaky faucets in our apartments, and never once hinted that his own happiness mattered more than our stability. Even when my sister married and I moved to São Paulo for a steady job, he remained unchanged—content, quiet, patient, as if waiting wasn’t a sacrifice but a choice he’d freely made.
